家长论坛

Parent Forum

如何帮助孩子制定长远的学习和成长计划，协助大学申请

How to identify a long term development plan for your child, and prepare for college application

论坛第一讲在9月17日下午3：00于The Fold Church举行，由对美国中小学教育思路很有研究的傅永强博士带领。当日，付博士的讲座非常精彩、接地气。他把多年积累下来的经验和他个人对美国中小学教育思路的理解分享给大家。当时共有40十多位家长积极参加了讲座，反响非常热烈，都说字字句句都是干货，绝对是我们社区的财富。来参加的家长很幸运没有错过这样好的机会和资源。我们也鼓励没有参加的家长常来学校坐坐，感受社区家庭相互关爱的美好气氛。

演讲的内容大致如下

因为很多家长希望再有第二讲。目前我们定在10月8日下午3点。请大家标好您的日历，千万不要错过。

The first Forum activity was a seminar at 3pm on Sept 17 at The Fold Church. Dr. Yongqiang Fu led the seminar. Dr Fu has good experience in analyzing the American primary and secondary education system in the US. He generously shared his multiple years of research and interpretation in the education strategy with the community families, and his view on how to identify a development plan for the children and prepare for college application. There were total over 40 parents joined the seminar, who gave highly rated feedback for this seminar, and acknowledged what Dr Fu shared were all genuine info. For those who joined this seminar, they were lucky to catch up this in our community treasure box. For those who missed, welcome them come to the School more often and feel the warmness of the community environment. We're together! We also would like to express our sincere appreciation to the parents who were on duty today. They were the ones who prepared the room and maintained the order for this seminar. Below as the agenda of the seminar


US University Overview

College application process overview 

College application decision plans

Key elements for college admission and how to prepare in primary and secondary schools 

Financial aid and its application 

College application tools 

Build your college list 

Junior and senior timeline, and summer plans 

SC public school GPA 

How to make course selections in high school


Many parents asked for a 2nd session. Thanks Dr Fu for his generosity to share his time again on Oct. 8. Please mark your calendar  and the seminar will start at 3pm at The Fold Church.

亲子关系 Parenting

论坛第二讲是每个家庭谈不尽的话题----亲子关系，于10月1日，10月22日和10月29日分三次在The Fold Church举行。来自格林维尔华人教会的郝治贤、李建花、陈翠叶姐妹和方智兄弟带领了这几次讲座。他们提出的理念包括：


第一次聚会，他们从神的角度来阐述和谐的家庭和亲密的夫妻关系为养育孩子奠定了良好的基础，面对教养孩子面临的各种困惑和挑战，他们介绍了一个为个人行为模式分类的DISC工具。运用这个工具，我们可以做一个自己和家人行为模式的分类评估，这使得对孩子行为和言语更容易理解。

在第二次的温馨聚会中，治贤、方智和建花跟几位家长坐在一起讨论如何在爱中管教孩子，基础是要无条件地接纳孩子。爱的‘语言’，既可以是肯定的言语也可以是服务的行动，既可以是精心准备的时刻，也可以是呈现对方喜爱的礼物，每个人都有自己喜好的爱的语言，了解了这些，就可以选择合适的方式向对方呈现爱的‘语言’。大家讨论了很多具体的例子，非常亲切温暖的氛围。

第三次聚会中翠叶带领大家举出各种例子来说明如何说孩子会听，如何跟青少年沟通，并且如何管理自己的情绪，并和建花一起做现场场景表演来说明。

非常感谢治贤、建花、翠叶姐妹和方智兄弟为大家贡献的时间，和他们热情真挚的分享。

The 2nd topic of the Forum is a common topic for all the families - Parenting. We had three sessions to cover this topic, on Oct 1st, 22nd and 29th respectively, at The Fold Church. Ms Terrie Fang, Ms Jianghua Li and Ms Cuiye Chen led this presentation. They have organized the seminar with the same topic in Greenville Chinese Christian Church in the past, and was highly acknowledged. These philosophies include


In the first presentation on Oct 2nd, Ms. Terrie, starting from the angle of view of the God, described the harmony of the family and close marital relationship are the foundation of raising a child. Facing the challenge in the journey of raising a child, they introduced a DISC tool (Dominance, Influence, Steadiness and Compliance) to help categorize the family members' individual behaviors. This makes it easier to understand children's behavior and language. 

In the 2nd presentation, where we had a cozy gathering, Ms Terrie, Mr. Fang and Ms Jianhua circled with a few parents to brain storm how to efficiently implement disciplines to the children -- the key answer is to discipline with unconditional love. As to the love language, it could be words of affirmation, or act of service, or quality time, or receiving gifts, etc. What we need to do is to discover which language the loved ones really like, and use them to express your love. A lot of real life examples and experiences were discussed. 

In the 3rd gathering, Ms Cuiye led the parents experience some examples to feel how to say so the kids can listen, how to communicate with the teens, and how to manage the emotions while facing the complex situations with the children.

We so appreciate Terrie, Jianhua, Cuiye and Fang Chi spent time with the parents, and their sincere sharing.